Small jokes count too | Si micile glume se pun

Ai tinde sa crezi ca micile glumite pe care le faci nu sunt relevante. Nu supara pe nimeni o mica gluma, asa-i? Ei bine, nu-i chiar asa. Vedeti voi, cand o persoana sufera de anumite insecuritati, insecuritati pe baza carora se fac glume, ea este afectata. Si inca cum! Ganditi-va asa: cand v-ati taiat, fie ea superficiala taietura, nu apesi. Pentru ca daca o faci, acea mica, superficiala taietura va incepe, incet, sa sangereze. Durerea se va potenta, iar cicatricea lasata va fi mai mare. Pentru a-ti trece, trebuie sa ai grija de rana, nu sa o iriti mai tare. Altfel, nu te vei vindeca niciodata. Asemenea este si cu insecuritatile si glumele. Ca acestea sa se vindece, trebuie sa le permitem acest lucru. Orice aluzie cu caracter ofensiv la adresa lor le va aprofunda. Si din insecuritate se va transforma intr-o rana psihologica adanca, intr-o frica. Mai jos veti avea ocazia de a citi un astfel de caz.

You are likely to think that the small jokes you say to people are irrelevant. Nobody gets upset over a little joke, isn't it? Well, it's not like that. You see, when a person is suffering from certain insecurities, insecurities you make jokes about, he or she is affected. Very affected! Think it this way: when you accidentally cut yourself, even if the cut is superficial, you don't press on it. Because if you do, that small, superficial wound will gradually begin to bleed. The pain will increase and the scars it leaves will be bigger. If you want to heal, you must take care of it, not worsen it. You should recall that in the context of insecurities and jokes as similar situation. Any reference bearing an offensive purpose in regards to someone's insecurities will aggravate them and those will turn into psychological wounds, fears. Down below, you have the opportunity to read such a case.

“Eu am experimentat o forma de bullying destul de usoara, care nu m-a afectat prea grav ca persoana, sau care nu mi-a adus traume, dar care mi-a format o oarecare nesiguranta . In scoala generala erau copii care imi imitau vocea sau care faceau glume pe seama vocii mele. De obicei, radeam si eu cu ei, dar in sinea mea nu-i suportam deloc. Cand ma enervam si le spuneam sa inceteze, acestia imi ziceau ca sunt doar glume si ca nu am de ce sa ma supar. Astfel, niste glume minore, superficiale, venite de la persoane a caror opinie nici nu ar trebui sa conteze pentru mine, au dus ca cea mai mare insecuritate a mea sa fie vocea.”

-Anonim

“I experienced a rather easy form of bullying which did not affect me that much, neither did it bring me many traumas, but it gave me some insecurities. In general school, some kids used to tease me or make fun of my voice. I would usually laugh with them, but I did not actually enjoy it. When I got mad at them, they would tell me that those are just jokes and that I have no reason to get upset. This is how some bad jokes made by some irrelevant people whose opinion should not matter to me, made my voice become my biggest insecurity.”

-Anonymous